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Riya
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Christian n Muslim Love Story
first of all main khudko introduce karati hon i live in europe, n main medical ki student hon n mujhe medical k liai hai aik clinic men kuch din kaam krna tha m 21, main abhi doctor nahi, but shuru k saal men hon, n yahan students ko medical studies start karne se pehle kuch din hospital men kaam karna hota hai. ye last july ki baat hai, mujhe aik month apne clinic men kaam karna thaa n woheen aik doctor thaa who was doing his house job. he was there for two months we started at the same time, he started in july with me n august k end tak usne wohin hona tha.

jab hamari first time mulaqat hui to i was not at all attracted by him. coz hes a blond with blue eyes, n m not attracted by europeans.. but with time, we used to visit patients together, n discussed about diseases etc, n he learnt me so many things he was really really nice, n i noticed that he was falling in love with me, but i completely ignored, coz once talking with a patient, he told him that he had a girlfriend. so i never tried to hav any sort of relationship with him i did respect him but nothing more

but he continued, n i also started falling in love with him, but i didnt tell anything, nor did he. i hid everything from him, but our eyes told everything. n then arrived the end of july, n i stopped working there. the last day i brought chocolates for him to thank him, with a card but i didnt say anything special to him, not even in the card. coz ive never had any relationship n i was afraid. n there was this thing: im a pakistani, i cant have a boyfriend..

so i always ignored him, i never encouraged him by my actions to say sthg to me. so he didnt. n everything finished like this.

after that, when univ started, i saw him just a few times at univ, n we just said hello hi, nothing more, but m sure he stilll has feelings for me, n so do i.. but i dont know wat to do.

on one side, there is this cultural difference.. n on the other is my love, i really miss him, n always thing abt him i regret having been so rude towards him, we could have been friends, only if i would have been a little more open hearted

n i swear guys, now i see him everywhere. whenever i see a blond somewhere, i compare him to this doctor, n i find that no one is as beautiful as he is his eyes are as pure as an ocean. i really miss him guys

but ive never let my feelings overcome the reality, n i didnt do anything until yesterday. imagine, ive passed all these months missing him, but i didnt do anything n yesterday i couldnt bear it anymore, n i decided to tell him. i got his mobile number frm somewhere, n i sent him a msg, telling him hes sweet, n that i was just thinking abt him. but unfortunately, msg wasnt delivered coz hes changed his mobile number..

now i do have his fix number, n i want to ask one of my friends to call there n ask his mobile number, frm any of his family members. so that i can msg him, n at least wish him new year.

i know i cant marry him, coz hes christian n im muslim, i dont even know whether hes still with his girl friend, but i just want to be his friend i just want to have this friendship relationship with him, n spend some time with him.. coz i really miss him guys plz tell me what to do itll really help me to get advice frm u guys.
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Sad sad storrryyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy


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Is it forbidden for a Muslim girl to marry a Christian (or Atheist, what is more often) guy?
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Carciel wrote:
Is it forbidden for a Muslim girl to marry a Christian (or Atheist, what is more often) guy?


Question forwarded to the E-Mufti Dude ...

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Why a Muslim Woman Is Not Allowed to Marry a Non-Muslim Man

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Dear Sheikhs, As-Salamu `alaykum. I would like to know why a woman is not allowed to marry a non-Muslim man while a Muslim man can marry a Jewish or Christian lady? What is the wisdom of that? Jazakum Allah khayran.

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Yusuf Al-Qaradawi, Muhammad `Ali Al-Hanooti

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Wa `alaykum As-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh.

In the Name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful.

All praise and thanks are due to Allah, and peace and blessings be upon His Messenger.

Dear sister in Islam, we would like to thank you for the great confidence you place in us, and we implore Allah Almighty to help us serve His cause and render our work for His Sake.

First of all, it is to be stressed that Islam does not encourage the interfaith marriages. The general rule of Islam is that Muslims should marry Muslims. A Muslim male or female should not marry a non-Muslim male or female. The only exception is given to Muslim men who are allowed to marry the chaste girls from among the People of the Book.

However, a Muslim woman is better suited to a Muslim man than a woman of Christian or Jewish faith, regardless of her merits. This is because marriage is not based on fulfilling ones sexual desires; rather, it is an institution. It aims to establish a home on the bases of tranquility, faith and Islamic morals. To fulfil this task, the whole family must apply Allahs course and try to convey His message.

It is obvious that Islam made it impermissible for a Muslim woman to marry a non-Muslim with aim of keeping her away from things that may jeopardize her faith. In fact, Islam aims at protecting religion. To achieve this goal, it prohibits a Muslim from being involved in something that represents a threat to his religion. A Muslim woman will not feel that her religion is secure while being with a Jewish or a Christian husband especially as the majority of the People of the Book do not show due respect to our Prophet, Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him).

Allah Almighty says: And the Jews will not be pleased with thee, nor will the Christians, till thou follow their creed. Say: Lo! The guidance of Allah (Himself) is Guidance. And if thou shouldst follow their desires after the knowledge which hath come unto thee, then wouldst thou have from Allah no protecting friend nor helper. (Al-Baqarah: 120)

Given the fact that the husband is generally the head of the household, it's not far-fetched for a non-Muslim husband to prevent his Muslim wife from performing some Islamic rituals which may seem a nuisance to him, for example fasting, or even refraining from marital relations during the fast. As a result, he might force her to change her religion, and if she refuses, the situation may culminate in divorce.

As for why Islam allows a Muslim man to marry a Christian or Jewish woman, it's clear that every Muslim believes in Moses and Jesus (peace be upon them) and he holds all the Prophets of Allah in high esteem. Thus a Muslim finds no harm in his wifes being a Christian or a Jew, for the spirit of tolerance Islam holds for other religions is ingrained in him.


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In his response to the question you raised, the eminent Muslim scholar, Sheikh Muhammad Al-Hanooti, member of the North American Fiqh Council, states:

"If Allah is the one who prohibits a Muslim woman from marrying a non-Muslim, then we as Muslims are supposed to believe it and to take it. As a matter of faith, you cannot become a Muslim unless you accept everything when it is ordained by Allah or carried out by his Messenger. The Qur'an says, "O Ye who believe! Put not yourselves forward before Allah and His Messenger" (Al-Hujurat: )

If you ask about the benefits of not marrying a non-Muslim, we can count you many reasons. A man is the manager of his household. He will persecute his Muslim wife in many dos and don'ts. She can hardly guarantee that kind of operation. Moreover, marriage is an institution for elevating our levels of having a good Islamic life. Pleasing Allah is our number one goal. If a woman is married to a non-Muslim, maybe the only thing she will accomplish in her marital life is what is good for livestock."

Shedding more light on the question, we'd like to cite the words of the eminent Muslim scholar, Sheik Yusuf Al-Qaradawi, in his well-known book, The Lawful and the Prohibited in Islam:

"It is haram for a Muslim woman to marry a non-Muslim man, regardless of whether he is of the People of the Book or not. We have already mentioned the saying of Allah, "...and do not marry (your girls) to idolaters until they believe..." (Al-Baqarah: 221)

And He said concerning the immigrant Muslim women: "Then if you know them to be Believers, do not send them back to the unbelievers. They are not lawful for them (as wives), nor are they lawful for them (as husbands)." (Al-Mumtahanah: 10)

No text exists which makes exceptions for the People of the Book. Hence, on the basis of the above verses, there is a consensus among Muslims concerning this prohibition.

Thus, while a Muslim man is permitted to marry a Christian or Jewish woman, a Muslim woman is not allowed to marry a Christian or Jewish man. There are many sound reasons for this difference. First, the man is the head of the household, the one who maintains the family, and he is responsible for his wife. And while Islam guarantees freedom of belief and practice to the Christian or Jewish wife of a Muslim, safeguarding her rights according to her own faith, other religions, such as Judaism and Christianity, do not guarantee the wife of a different faith freedom of belief and practice, nor do they safeguard her rights. Since this is the case, how can Islam take chances on the future of its daughters by giving them into the hands of people who neither honor their religion nor are concerned to protect their rights?

A marriage between a man and woman of different faiths can be based only on the husband's respect for his wife's beliefs; otherwise a good relationship can never develop. Now, the Muslim believes that both Judaism and Christianity originated in divine revelation, although later distortions were introduced into them. He also believes that God revealed the Tawrah to Moses and the Injeel to Jesus, and that both Moses and Jesus (peace be on them) were among the Messengers of Allah who were distinguished by their steadfast determination. Accordingly, the Christian or Jewish wife of a Muslim lives under the protection of a man who respects the basic tenets of her faith, her Scripture, and her Prophets, while in contrast to this the Jew or Christian recognizes neither the Divine origin of Islam, its Book, or its Prophet (peace be on him). How then could a Muslim woman live with such a man, while her religion requires of her the observance of certain worships, duties, and obligations, as well as certain prohibitions. It would be impossible for the Muslim woman to retain her respect for her beliefs as well as to practice her religion properly if she were opposed in this regard by the master of the house at every step.

It will be realized from this that Islam is consistent with itself in prohibiting the Muslim man to marry a mushrik (polytheist) woman, for since Islam is absolutely opposed to shirk (polytheism), it would obviously be impossible for two such people to live together in harmony and love."


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In my own layman opinion.

It is indeed creating a religious,social & a family problems.When we Muslims (Or the other way round) can get some Muslim woman to marry why to get into this kind of a adventurism or controvercy.As Allama Iqbal said it in one of his verse (To the best of my knowledge it is Allama Iqbal Verse):
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"Kunad Hum Jins Ba Hum Jins Parwaaz - Kabootar Ba Kabootar,Baaz Ba Baaz"

("Birds & feathers flock together").

We have seen so many examples around us in our practical life here that often such marriges ended on a very bitter end.The rational explaination to me is that because such marriages are mostly based on our own feelings,emotions & wishfull thinking.Not keeping in mind the ground realities eg.Religious,Social & family problems caused by it.It is indeed a fact that Marriage isn't just a relation between men & women.Rather it is an institution in its broad meanings.To me it is indeed a unjustice with a person of a different religion to force (Emotional blackmailing included) your life partner to leave all that which he/she lives before that relation.It is asking too much from others.Other draw back of it is that it creates division in the mind & heart of their children which itself is a dillema.I have seen that even our Muslim brothers are often Marrying a Non Muslim woman just for the wordly purposses mostly for the immigration papers etc.Or some even true in their feelings are getting into many conflicts because of the difference of opinion & a lifestyle etc.We can't change ourselves completely & we can't ask from others to change completely

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